Thursday, October 30, 2008

Where did my boy go?

My only son, my middle child, the one who use to light up when ever we were together, the one who always wanted to go everywhere with me. That was then, this is now. I have lost my little boy to this teenager, who is just plain foul. I have no other word to describe this person who has taken the place of my little boy.
This boy who is mean to his sisters for no apparent reason other than to hear them argue, who teases the dogs just to hear them bark, who speaks to MD and I as if we were trash.
Neighbors say they cannot believe that he acts this way, they say he is always the poster child for great kids. That is until our street gathering last Friday, Devin showed some of his true colors. Which had one neighbor telling him to not act that way towards his parents.
I have racked my brain silly trying to figure out what I did wrong. He cares about nothing, not his grades, his appearance, his family, his wrestling, nothing.
I have tried getting him to get back into his school work, nothing, actually in some classes he got worse. His eldest sister has tried talking with him about school and about wrestling. Nothing again.
Years ago we tried a psychologist, that did not work. That was the first sign of the DEMON seed emerging.
So we have gone the counselor route, sports route, mentor route.
I just want my little guy back, my smiling happy boy back, my confident smart boy back. I don't know how, but I want him back, I do not much like this person who has taken his place.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Well I finally am recovered from this past weekends festivities (well almost).

Friday was cold but fun, we all sat around a fire and ate and visited. I have to say the Cinnamon rolls I made were a total hit.

Everyone was wanting to take leftovers home! I obviously made wayyyyyy too many. Though the recipe did not come from me ........go here to this website for the best cinnamon rolls ever! Your family, friends and coworkers will beg for more I promise.

It was Saturday's party that did me in. I was given concoctions I had never heard of (and to say I do not normally drink is an understatement). "Chocolate Love" could not tell you what was in it nor can I remember how it tasted. But if you want to get stupid, hammered, sh$@^^ faced fast that will be the drink to do it. Oh and finish it off with a couple shots of Tequila. That will do it for sure. Or at least that is what did it to me.

Now remember I had no brain cells when I took these pictures.
I have no idea how this turned out blue!
And then the very next picture came out sooo dark?
This is the only picture I took that was not blurry or blue.
But let me tell you, Sunday I PAID for every bit of fun I had Saturday. Praying to the porcelain God does not cover what I did. I think I not only prayed but tried to move in. No headache though just a lot of dry heaves! YUK (sorry)!
I still managed to go to work on Monday (I looked like a ghost though) and made it through with no complaining. Yea me! But it will be quite a while before drinking and I meet again!

Friday, October 24, 2008

It is a Halloween Gathering

Tonight is our streets annual Halloween gathering. We all come out to the court with deserts and appetizers. We gather around a large fire and get to know each other all over again. Sometimes it is the only time we see some of our neighbors, because of work, kids or what ever we do not socialize very often. I think these little gatherings are fun and a nice way to hang with the neighbors but not get all up into each others everyday personal stuff.

Hopefully the weather cooperates:
Cold we can handle, rain we can not. PLEASE do not rain tonight!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

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With all this money we could all have a good time!

A Quiet Evening

I dreaded coming home last night to a house without MD. He is away on business and I was going to have to be home alone with Devin and Mikayla. This did not use to be a problem when the kids were younger, but now that they are teenagers they are a little tougher to deal with.

I will have to say last night went rather well. To my surprise ........ NO ARGUMENTS. Devin actually did the homework I asked him to get done, shared the computer with Mikayla, laughed and smile. We even wrestled on the floor tickling each other. It was strange and nice at the same time. There were even no arguments about going to bed and even better no arguments or yelling about getting up in the this morning. All things were blissfully wonderful in the MD house last night!

I have no idea why Devin behaves poorly when MD is home, nothing is really different other than MD backs me up when asking Devin to do something. When Devin disagrees the war starts.

I only wish it would go this calmly every night or at least more often than not.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Woordless Wednesday

Have nothing new to talk about, nothing new going on. Told ya we are a boring family most of the time. We have not even had any good arguments with the kids (both young ones are grounded again).

So I thought I would just post a picture of a Missouri Sunrise for your viewing pleasure.
MD's flight leaves at 3 today so it will just be me and the kids tonight. Should be an uneventful evening. We shall see what the moods are when I get home.

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else?

So I fell upon this little test and played for fun. This thing pegged me pretty good. Kind of creepy. Go for fun and try it.


Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz...

You Are a Marilyn!


You are a Marilyn -- "I am affectionate and skeptical."

Marilyns are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.

How to Get Along with Me
  • * Be direct and clear
  • * Listen to me carefully
  • * Don't judge me for my anxiety
  • * Work things through with me
  • * Reassure me that everything is OK between us
  • * Laugh and make jokes with me
  • * Gently push me toward new experiences
  • * Try not to overreact to my overreacting.

What I Like About Being a Marilyn
  • * being committed and faithful to family and friends
  • * being responsible and hardworking
  • * being compassionate toward others
  • * having intellect and wit
  • * being a nonconformist
  • * confronting danger bravely
  • * being direct and assertive

What's Hard About Being a Marilyn
  • * the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind
  • * procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself
  • * fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of
  • * exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger
  • * wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right
  • * being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations

Marilyns as Children Often
  • * are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn
  • * are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger
  • * form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent
  • * look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel
  • * are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent

Marilyns as Parents
  • * are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty
  • * are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence
  • * worry more than most that their children will get hurt
  • * sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries

We Are In A Holding Pattern!

OK so we started the demolition / prep of the front of the house this weekend. Saturday was spent on the first floor ripping all the siding down, cleaning up, putting up the tar paper, cleaning up, then sealing the windows, and cleaning up. I will have to say we worked our tales off.

By late afternoon we had up most of the tar paper. It was really hard getting anything done because every hour or so someone from the neighborhood would come by and ask us LOTS of questions about what we were doing (most of our neighbors think we are crazy for all the projects we take on). I would say we were stopped about 7 different times. And of course these were long discussions (never mind the fact they could SEE we were working)

Today we started on the garage (it got too dark to finish it yesterday) and MD had me crawling up and down this contraption. Looks none too safe does it? I totally did not like being up on this ladder. So I told MD I was not going to do anymore of the garage and that he could finish. I went on the roof (where I felt way more comfortable) and started removing the siding up there.

I got most of the siding removed before MD got up there or at least what I could reach. Then the scary ladders came back. I recruited RD to hold the ladder while MD shimmied up them. I do not feel one bit comfortable being responsible for the security of the ladder when both ME and the ladder weigh more than I do. I started putting up the tar paper, when the boys got done playing on the ladders I left them to finish and I still had laundry, house cleaning, and the yard to mow. I had no idea where the kids took off. They say that there was going to be work so they dissapeared. Neither one came home until dark.

We are now finished with the prep work minus putting support beams up on the porch. This we will do when the contractor gets here. Which by the way has been pushed off another week. He is stuck on another job that the carpenters keep lagging behind on. So we are now told it will be the week of Halloween before they get here! Oh well, MD has to cut bricks so that gives him more time to do so.

Friday, October 17, 2008

Its Friday!!!!!!

Wa Ho its Friday!!

I am soooo glad its Friday. This week has been a monster week.

What is it with state agencies that require sooo much paperwork? We have two separate sites that we are working on doing their permit renewals and man both states are requiring these monster reports attached with them. I have gone through at least 10 cases of paper, and that is just for this current round of responses. This does not include the first round we already went though earlier this year and one round late last year.

For a country that is big on reducing, recycling, and reusing you would think that maybe the state EPA offices would at least accept reports on Cd's. Nope I have to put together these 2, 3, 4, and 5 volume reports (in 3 inch binders) for them to sit on a shelf somewhere.

Did I mention I am soooo glad it is Friday?

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Another Project On Its Way

MD received confirmation from Joe the Brick Guy (I have no idea what his company name is) and they are definitely starting Wednesday the 22nd.
This is what my house looks like. Not bad I know, but MD and I have always wanted the front to be brick and stone. When we built the house the builder wanted a shockingly large amount to do what we wanted so we opted to do it later and later is 5 years (almost to the day) later.
We worked out a deal with the brick guy and one way to get our costs down was to prep the house ourselves. Which means taking down the shutters, siding, porch rails and columns, and wrapping the house (which was something the builder should have done and did not).
So far we have only worked on the first floor getting the shutters down and the porch rails. This weekend is going to be a VERY busy one as we have to get everything done before Monday.

MD and I were going to take off Monday and Tuesday to make sure we get everything finished but I have clients coming in Monday through Thursday and can not get off work. MD has to go out of town on Wednesday and Thursday unexpectedly and has to do a lot of stuff at work before he goes. That means we will be cutting bricks Monday and Tuesday evening (another cost saver).

Keep your fingers crossed as I do not want to have to be doing ANY of this after MD leaves. I already have to wait until the brick layers get their scaffolding up so I can get the siding off the VERY top peak. good thing I have no fear of heights!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Greesy Grimmey Gofer Guts

What is it about boys, I just do not understand them. And that makes raising a teenage boy VERY difficult.

Devin has hit that I am a big kid and do not have to do what you say stage and it is driving me crazy. Here is a list of what I am up against boys vs girls here at the MD house:

1. The boy's grades D's and F's, girls getting straight A's

2. Boy's appearance sloppy, girls clean.

3. Boy speaks to me like I am trash, girls still speak to me like they at least like me.

4. The world owes the boy, what I am not sure but it owes him something.

5. He will do what he wants when he wants and do not bother him otherwise.

6. He is crabby ALL the time! Never happy about anything, totally miserable.

And this is just what I can think of at 630ish am in the morning.

Today is a perfect example. I go to get the boy up at 545, 600, 615, 625 and 630. Each time I tell him what time it is, and he yells at me he knows. OK fine I go clean up something while I wait for him to come down. Finally he emerges from the upstairs grumbling of course that he is hungry, and there is nothing to eat (mind you there are 4 boxes of cereal, a box of breakfast bars, apples, and instant oat meal in the pantry), and when I inform him that there is stuff to eat he switches up to there is no time to eat (bus comes at 640 am). Then while locating everything his books shoes and what not, demands lunch money.

Never a hi mom, how ya doing, good morning, nothing. Just there is nothing, leave me alone, and grumbling. This pretty much is repeated in the evening when I get home and ask about homework.

Makes coming home very stressful, and makes staying at work very appealing. Yes that way I can hide from my problems. Sometimes I like hiding.

It seems I am the reason for everything that goes wrong in his life even if I am no where around or had anything to do with it.

I am at wits end with this kid, I can deal with his long hair, torn baggy jeans, and even maybe his grumpy disposition, if he performed better at school, and was not so disrespectful (luckily he is only disrespectful to MD and I not any other teachers or adults). I have tried everything every doctor has suggested, the suggestions work for a bit (or not at all) then nothing. I need suggestions and quick. I am to the point of just letting him crash and burn at school, maybe going to summer school or even repeating a grade with set him straight (by the way everything at school is the teachers fault not his).

Who ever said boys were easier were on some kind of mind trip. Girls......way easier.

Monday, October 13, 2008

A Christmas Gathering of Sorts

Well it is the week before mom and dad leave to "winter" in Florida. This year they decided to have the family together for our "Christmas" dinner.
We had our normal dinner of Lasagna, salad, garlic bread, roast, veggies, and potatoes. All yummy as usual.
And no, Devin has STILL not gotten a hair cut. I think he has had one in a 12 month period so far. Felicia's hair is actually shorter than Devin's. But his grades are going up so I guess I will deal with the hair.

We also celebrated Kahlen's 7th birthday. He is such a chunky monkey, and so excited to see Devin. He absolutely adores Devin (we have not yet figured out why).

Audrey and I may get together for Christmas in December, depending if we decide to go to Florida or not. I am thinking that we will probably not venture away from home this year. With all the projects going on with the house and one never knows what the weather will be. We can not afford to get stuck between Florida and here.
Man do I need to actually spend some time on my pictures, this one was kind of dark. But no time to play have yet to finish cleaning the kitchen, fold some laundry, and break up a few arguments that I am listening to. Cleaning seems to NEVER go away, and when you are as OCD as I am about having a clean house (or at the very least a non messy one) it is never ending. I am currently staring at dirty windows and it is driving me crazy. MD says to not bother until after NEXT week when the brick guys are done with the front. He states that it will be a waste of time doing them now as I will have to redo them when they are done.
Do you not just love a man that gives you excuses to NOT clean! Got to love that man.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Which Twilight Female are You?

OK, so my eldest is totally enthralled with this series of books. She waits in lines from midnight to 2am when the newest edition comes out just to be one of the first to get it and then has it read in a day or two. She has her winter break planned out so as not to miss the first movie when it comes out. AND God know she will have to see it multiple times.

She even went as far as getting the girl she babysat all summer into the series, they would sit around and read all the time. I actually thought that part was cute.

So when I found this I immediately thought of her. I still yet have to read the books (like I have time for reading anything).

Check it out though, I guess I will have to read them to see who this is........

I'm a Esme! I found out through Which Twilight Female Are You? Take the quiz and find out!
Take the Quiz and Share Your Results!

Is this not the same girl from a sit com on TV call Exs or My Exs? It is on Friday nights. Anyone, Anyone, Anyone at all have an answer?

Thursday, October 09, 2008

It was a Man Hunt to Close to Home!

This is how I got to start my morning:

Police and SWAT teams are in O'Fallon, Mo. searching for a man they want to talk to about the shooting death of a 12-year-old Madison boy.
Detectives with the Major Case Squad of Greater St. Louis have named Marcus T. "Butterhead" Powell, 27, as a "person of interest" in the shooting and killing of Delarrian Davis just after midnight Tuesday as the child was doing homework at his mother's home at 2018 Skeen Ave. in Madison.

The manhunt in O'Fallon, Mo. began around 5 a.m. after Powell was spotted in Illinois and fled from police into Missouri.

KSDK reported that O'Fallon police are searching for Powell in an area bounded by Bryan Road, Veterans Memorial Parkway, Mexico Road and Route K. Everyone who lives in the area is asked to stay inside and keep doors locked and garage doors closed.

Police are stopping vehicles and looking in the back seats and trunks for any sign of Powell.
Police said Powell is 5-foot-7 and weighs 145 pounds. He was wearing a white t-shirt and tan shorts. Capt. Brad Wells with the Madison County Sheriff's Department said previous reports that Powell was armed are untrue. He said Powell is not believed to have any weapons or a cell phone. He has no known acquaintances in the O'Fallon area.

Wentzville Police began pursuing Powell on I-70 early Thursday when he crashed his car at Bryan Road, according to O'Fallon Police. Powell ran off and has not been seen since.
Fort Zumwalt West High School, West Middle School, Dardenne Elementary and Rock Creek Elementary are closed due to the search.

I got up this morning and sent Devin off to the bus stop without knowing his school was canceled. That is until one of Mikayla's friends called to tell us that school was canceled and why. Still not all the way awake I replied "no, Devin's bus just drove by". The friend replied "really?" and we hung up. I was curious so I turned on the news (as it was still dark out I could not see Devin at the bus stop without going outside) and there it was school closed due to the man hunt in the area. I bolted outside to see if Devin was there and he was. I told all the kids to go home and for Devin to get in the house. Needless to say we were glued to the television. MD said that he was going to be home for a while and Felicia is home for the week so I thought it safe to get ready for work and try to get there without being too late. What I did not hear on the news was that they were telling people to stay in and not leave. Did not hear this particular warning so off to work I went. I was told by a coworker that I was supposed to have stayed put.

Around 10 a.m. MD called stating that the police helicopters were now hovering over our neighborhood! How freaking scary is that.

Police tactical teams in O'Fallon, Missouri have captured the man wanted in connection with the shooting death of a boy in Madison, Illinois and wanted in connection with another shooting at a gas station. Police found Marcus Powell hiding in a shed in a trailer park. (full story here)

Not a good way to start the day is all I have to say.

Monday, October 06, 2008

Wordless Monday

All I have to say is ...... I sure wish I could be a kid again!

Sunday, October 05, 2008

Add Another Project to Our List!

I have given up to the fact that we will NEVER get "DONE" with our house. This was the first house MD and I had built. And only our third together (our first home was a condo ). Well we thought we got everything we thought we wanted (structurally) done to this house. Well.........I guess not.

He just asked this morning what I would think if:

1. He removed the steps from our deck (what is he crazy). and

2. If he made them spiral around the gazebo.

I can not say no, so I said add it to the list, and that I asked that the shed under the gazebo finished first. So we will have been in this house 5 years October 31st. Yes we signed all our papers on Halloween. Omen of our future? Not been to bad so far. But really when does one get "DONE" with their home projects?


See what floated overhead yesterday!

I so want to ride in one of these, and have for a long time. It is on my "Bucket List" of things to do.

I had to zoom all the way the camera would go for this one. Kind of turned out fuzzy.

Saturday, October 04, 2008

Antoher One Down for the Count

MD has finished another basement (actually two weeks ago). This one took over 5 months to finish, longest one yet. Over 2,000 square feet of a lot of work, noise, dust, and early weekend rising. But in the end the homeowners loved the work MD did.

Mr. homeowner wanted a BIG Bar open to his theater room .......... Do ya think he got it?

MD had a few choice words coming from his mouth when building this bar. Since it is actually so thin he had to get creative with how this was going to hold the weight of the Cambria counters. Man them suckers are heavy. As always, it worked out great. The bar is as solid as a rock and sturdier.

Since they used tin on the ceiling, MD suggested they also use it for the back splash. I think it turned out FABULOUS!

He did a different pattern with the tile behind the bar to give it some separation.

The only thing MD did not do in this basement was lay the carpet and install the Cambria counters. His knees are still peeling from all the tile work. Over 1800 square feet. He was always grumpy on those days.

Ms. homeowner wanted a custom vanity top. They were going to go Cambria, but the sales person suggested that MD make their vanity (to save THEM money).

She also wanted a BIG shower, so this is what MD gave her. What do ya think? There is a seat on the right side that you can not see. I am sooooo jealous as our shower has no seat, ledge, nothing. To shave I have to get a balancing act going, holding my leg up with one had and shave with the other.

I can not wait until we get to redo our master bath. I have already started drawing up pictures. So far MD likes what I have shown him. Of course it will be sometime next year before we can afford what we want to do. Besides this basement is helping pay for the brick/stone we are getting put on the front in a couple of weeks.

This basement consisted of two bedrooms, 1 large bathroom, game area, bar area and theater room (area).

MD also install two large windows (1 per room) the french doors.

Last weekend and this weekend he is off building a deck. Devin is helping this weekend. FINALLY putting the boy to good use, and he is doing what he likes to do. Maybe he (they) will not be soooooo grumpy when they get home.

On a separate note ............................. everyone keep your fingers crossed for my sister as she is on a job interview today!

Oh yea, Banana Tree Update (this will make for one very long post. Sorry)

We are getting quite a few bananas!

Now do not forget the "pod" use to cover all of the bananas, it is now about half its original size.

And it is still dropping leaves with new bananas under each leaf! It is leaning enough for me to stick my hand next to what is left of the pod. (No jokes on how old my hand look I already know they look old!)

These trees below are a bit smaller than the one producing bananas but they are all still taller than I am . Can you tell MD likes his banana trees? They are all over my back yard. But he keeps telling me I can not plant anymore trees. He says that I would have a forest if he did not keep me in line.

He is probably right. But when you live on the corner of a very busy street, why not have a forest between you and the noise? I I would not have to look at cars driving by all the time. Just you wait, I usually get what I want so a few more trees may still be in my future. Besides I want them on the side of the house, not the back yard.