Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Finanly a day of rest ...... sort of.

This has been one crazy month, but I guess December always is for most.

That with family visiting or going to visit family. Our December also includes birthdays. This was a big one for Felicia, she turned 21. Her friends at school of course held a "drunk fest" for her though she never did make it to 21 shots (epic failure so they say).


She did look too cute even if the "dress" she wore was ACTUALLY a shirt. Goofy kid, lucky she is of small stature or she would have never been able to pull that off.

Then some more friends from high school got together for happy hour. Jodi wanted me to come and I wish I could have but that was a kid running around night.


I do like getting with old classmates and re-kindeling old friendships. Mine and Jodi's friendship continues to get stronger and stronger ever since we reunited back in May. The poor thing, I have drug her to everything and she never complains! Weirdly enough she enjoys it.

Mikayla also had her winter recital in December. This was her first recital, and she was EXTREMELY nervous. She said in practice she fell, but she was amazing when it cam to show time. I told her if your going to mess up then practice is the time to do it! Though she concentrated so hard she barely ever broke a smile, she was soooo serious the whole time.



Their song was to Santa Baby. And they all did a wonderful job. I was so very proud of her. She is in dance and gymnastics now because she wants to be on the high school dance team when she gets there. It is pretty much required that you have taken dance and gymnastics prior to high school. She is hoping that 1 year will be enough. I am too, she has never really shown so much interest in school activities before.

This month MD and I did end up having to buy some new appliances! Our washer decided that it did not want to spin any longer, the dryer decided that building up lint was a good thing, and the dishwasher loudly sang its grievances against washing. So off to Lowe's we went and spent what I later found out was my Christmas present from MD. A trip to Hawaii! Damn appliance knew he was getting ready to buy a vacation away from them so they revolted....all at once! That's okay, little do they know, I will get my trip anyway. I just have to wait a little longer.

MD's sister came in for a visit on the 17th. I love when She comes in because MD actually cleans the whole house......himself! This is the only time when he really dives in and makes sure everything looks just so. I don't know why but the house must be clean for his sister.

It was good seeing my soon to be doctor nephew! We have not gotten to see him in about 4 years or better. School keeps getting in the way. He did an impressive thing....he lost a whole person. The young man has been slowly loosing weight for the last two years and has gone from 350ish pounds to 185. He looks AMAZING. He still eats what seems to be massive amounts of food, it is just different kind of food than before. He is a rabbit, I have never seen anyone eat so much salad. I give many kudos to the kid, that defiantly took some will power to change an entire lifetime of eating habits.

We all took Felicia to the Casino for her birthday. Luck would have it she turned the $100 we gave her into $230. After we got home Casey (Felicia's friend she brought home from school) Felicia and Matt went to a local bar for some fun without the "old" people around.



Then Christmas. We had a VERY good Christmas this year thanks to MD's construction company doing soooo well this year. They kids never grumbled or complained once. Mikayla opened one gift and was good, she needed nothing else! MD and I were amazed!

The kids were well behaved at their grandparents house. Well Devin still gave his sisters and cousins trouble. It just wouldn't be normal if he didn't.


But the food was good as was the company.

Devin was even VERY affectionate giving hugs! Actually it was suprising and I soaked up as much as he would give.

His younger sister was not so into his affection though. She really is not use to that at all and didn't trust him. Kindof fuuny I think.

But Mikayla did like visiting with her cousin Alayna. From this picture you can't even tell that Mikayla is 10 months OLDER than her cousin. That kid is going to a tall one. Both are 13 years old, act and look totally diferent.

If we did not live so far apart they would be the closest of friends.
Whew I think I covered it all, caught up on everything. Long enough post that is for sure.
Hope everyone has a wonderful and prosperous new year!!!

Saturday, December 12, 2009

I am too Old For This

After being out all night (okay so 1:30 am), driving some rather very intoxicated friends home, and crawling into bed about 2-2:30 am, and getting up promptly at 7am I have discovered I am too old to do that more than one night. And even that is too much.

It is now Saturday night, 9pm and can not keep my eyes open.

Man I am getting OLD!

Do you Ever Just Wonder "WHAT THE HELL WERE THEY THINKING"

Last night MD and I attended my company's Christmas Party at the Lemp Mansion. If any of you know the eastern side of Missouri knows that the Lemp Mansion in the city, which is about, oh on a good day, 30-40 minutes from my house.

They (the highway dept) just opened Hwy 40 back up, and we thought that would make the trip go faster. You know new, bigger highway. We were wrong because I think everyone else thought the same thing. I guess Hwy 70 must have had no cars on it and it took over an hour for us to get to our destination.

The Lemp Mansion sports a dinner theater type thing. Which was fun. It was not until wee were on our way home that the "WHAT THEY HELL WERE THEY THINKING" happened.


We were going from one hwy to another via the exit ramp. duh. But we (and quite a few others) QUICKLY came upon two STOPPED vehicles in the road. Now it is a good thing we were slowing down to make the turn on the off ramp. Because all of a sudden MD was slamming on his breaks (again as well a others) to avoid the two vehicles as well as avoiding the others that were swerving and slamming on their breaks.

MD missed the car in front (at this point kind of front and side) of us, as well as keeping us from being side swiped from the traffic still on the hwy, as well as keeping us from the vehicles on my side of the road. AND amazingly the vehicles behind us seem to be able to do the same thing as MD. I heard no crunching of metal, no blaring horns, and weirdly enough I do not remember any screeching of tires.

Odd thing, I was clam through the whole thing. Normally MD's drive has me white knuckled and jumpy. But at that very moment I was as calm as a cucumber. Funny thing was my boss was in the back seat (did I forget to mention we were giving her a ride to her car?) and we were just discussing both of our husbands and their driving habits (hers races cars, mine drives like he is on a track) and how they both normally scare us to death.

MD kept apologizing to her and her response was no reason to be and that she was VERY impressed on how he handled it.

I think it was just the Gods smiling down on us saying they wanted us here a little bit longer.

That's my man! Never shows fear even when he is scared to death!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

How to relieve the PRESSURE of the Holidays

I find that This time of year tends to get mind boggeling and gets me totally frazzeled (is that even a word). Over the last few years I have started doing a few things to de-strss myself especially this time of year.

Here are a few things I have found to help give you the excuse to just go CALM and enjoy every day.

1.Haven’t finished (or started) decorating yet? Just say NO. Do you really need to empty all 25 holiday rubbermaid containers and use 132 strands of lights?

Find a small focal point in a couple of rooms to add a festive touch of greenery or a jar of brightly colored ornaments & Christmas balls. There is no need to deck out every shelf and surface with an extravagant holiday display. Give yourself a break and keep it simple.

2.Feeling like an total failure because you don’t have enough time to bake with your kids? Devise a shortcut. There is nothing wrong with using pre-made sugar cookies. It saves some time and still allows your kids the fun of decorating and eating holiday cookies. And isn’t that the point?

3.Need to get the house picked up in a hurry for a holiday gathering? Use a grab and stash method! Take paper bags, label the front with the name of the room you are cleaning and gather up all the miscellaneous clutter from that space. The only rule is no bills or important papers can go in the bag, but everything else is fair game. Put the bags in a closet and set an appointment with yourself in January to sort through it once the holidays are over. If you don’t feel like looking in the bag in January, toss it. You probably don’t need that stuff anyways.

4.Don’t even know where to begin? Put the top three projects that need to get done down on paper. Shut down the computer (yes, the computer needs to be turned off) and tackle one project at a time. It is a lot easier to focus once you break it down. Multi-tasking (at least when attacking chores at home) leads to anxiety and lack of progress.

5.Need to rev up your holiday spirit? Give yourself a break! Pour yourself a holiday drink, turn on the Christmas tunes, read the Christmas story and remember the reason for the season.

Adapted and republished from December 2008
Photo & DIY Pinecone Elves instructions: Martha Stewart

Wednesday, December 09, 2009

Anyone for some Arctic roll?

My cousin Steve posted this article on his FaceBook page. He is a photographer and is always finding interesting pictures. But I will have to say that this one tops the all.

Title of the Article "Mystery as spiral blue light display hovers above Norway."


They say it is unconnected with the aurora borealis (northern lights). It also states that Residents were left stunned after the light show which looked computer generated.


It almost looks like it's being shot up from the hill/mountain. That would be one major light to produce this kind of light show.


Just thought this was too interesting not to share.

Monday, December 07, 2009

Another Drug

A new (to us) drug for Devin. This one is to help with his moods.

We shall see what if anything this one does within 6 weeks.

I am not holding my breath though.


On the upside, Devin is now 5 foot 8 1/4 inches! He has sprouted over 8 inches since April! Weighing in now at 115 pounds. Still gaining weight but no where near the rate that his is growing tall. So basically yes he is tall & very skinny.

It's Definately a Monday

I am sitting on my couch watching the time slowly pass by. I am waiting until it is time to leave for Devin's Neurologist appointment. Why Neurologist you ask? Well basically every other kind doctor has not helped. Devin is now not taking ANY kind of medication. This year he has shot up over 7 inches in height and maybe gain 7 pounds. Yes he is a bean pole. He still has weird mood swings but he has been "happier" since he stopped taking his ADHD meds. from what his Neurologist is saying he is more inclined to diagnose with with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) than with ADHD. And wait for it ..... here it comes...... there is nothing medically we can do to treat this. His is basically going to have a VERY tough time with school and at home. Since those are the two places that most enforce rules that he must conform to. Oh Joy.

Devin is no longer in traditional school. He goes to a state run school which they call a Day Treatment Center. I will say that his grades are better and they always give glowing reports on his behavior. I am still worried though that when he does go back to his normal high school he will still be too far behind. Devin will come home explaining to us how his day goes. Sometimes the school will start an hour and a half late and then all they did that day was make cookies. I am hoping that it was done like a home EC class and there were life skills taught. They provide lunch for Devin at no cost to us. His lunches have included McDonald's, Taco Bell, Subway, Golden Coral (a local buffet), KFC, and Long John Silvers. The boy eats better at school than he ever did at regular public school. I have no idea how the school affords this. I guess it is not for me to worry about.

This weekend was a bad weekend for Devin and therefor for the rest of us. HE is very moody lately. I still say it has to do with the types of video games he plays. But I get no backing on that one. Everyone else just sees that he is home and not causing "trouble". But then not everyone else is asking Devin to "do" anything around the house. That alone is my blessing. Devin has come to the conclusion that if he does ANYTHING to help around the house then he should be paid for it. That includes cleaning his own filth in HIS bathroom. I am thinking that I should teach him a little lesson here and agree to "pay" him for helping around here.

BUT and oh do I mean a big BUT.

I will start charging him for food and board. Oh and if I have to taxi him anywhere that too will be charged for. Then there are his hair cuts and clothes that he has been asking for. Yes I think that would be a good lesson for him to learn, and learn the hard way. Trouble is I have to figure out how to execute this without having the whole house suffer from what I am sure will be a huge temper tantrum.

Stay tuned ...... we shall see.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Journey & Van Halen Tribute Concert

This past Saturday night neighbor Jim & Michele asked MD and I to go out with them and other friends to a concert. MD initially said no (thinking that I would not want to go) but Michele found me outside doing yard work and said something about it. Duh, of course I would love to go out to dinner and a concert!
So off to Olive Garden we went. Met up with Jaime, Ron, Sandy, and Jaime's brother & his wife. I love Olive Garden's salads and bread sticks. MD had a Manicotti dish with white sauce that tasted amazing. Needless to say I kept sneaking bites of his meal.

The concert was general admission, we headed for the top (definitely showing our age) it was not AS loud up there. That and the fact that we had so many in our group it was easier finding seats together at the top.

MD being his usual self. Cannot make a straight face when he knows someone is taking a picture. Such a silly man.

Our view.

It seems that every time I attempt to take a picture of Michele she is eating. She hates that. But I cannot help it, it just happens.
After the concert somehow we once again made it to the casino. We didn't gamble much, this time at least. MD & I were just plain ole worn out, plus he had to work on Sunday. So come 1:15 of the am Jim and Michele gave us their keys and we left. I paid for it all day Sunday. Jodi and I laid around the house watching movies. I kept cat napping during the day, waiting for the kids to get themselves ready for school (wishing they would get through it quickly) so I could hit the pillows. I need a vacation from my vacations. Always doing a lot in a little amount of time.
Oh well keeps me young.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Food and Lots of It

Okay dad here you go. My very first Pumpkin Cheesecake. Made by me and not store bought! Mike said it was very sweet, but Jodi and the boys devoured it.


Now I know your drooling as you got the Mother of all Sweet tooth's. But here is a picture of the rest of the food. Jodi said that I cooked enough for a small army. Needless to say we had plenty of left overs even with Jodi taking home enough food for several dinners for her and the boys.


Mike again did his one and only task required (in addition to food tasting), carving the bird. He does it so well and takes such enthusiasm in it making sure he gets every last piece of meet off the bones.


Jodi's boys, Scottie & Sean, and Sean's fiance Casey showed up just in time for desert. It was nice to see everybody enjoying all the food.


Let mom know we had a very nice Thanksgiving here, hopefully next year you two will be able to be here. Audrey spent time at her friends for dinner with Alayna & Kahlen. Now we are getting ready for Christmas dinner. Any special requests?

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Thanksgiving Preparation

I always take off work the week of Thanksgiving. Mainly because I love to cook and it takes me days to make sure I have everything I need. Today I am making pumpkin bread, pumpkin cheesecake, apple pie, and my breads for tomorrow's dinner. Tomorrow will be consumed with the turkey, green bean casserole, stuffing, sweet potatoes, garlic mashed potatoes, and Mikayla's requested corn and peas.

I love cooking and its rather depressing cooking for my family. They are all picky eaters. I have decided to just start cooking for me and what I want to cook, if they eat they eat if not.......there is always cereal.

This year my friend Jodi and her boys will be joining us for Thanksgiving. That also excites me because her boys LOVE to eat! And really nothing makes me happier than cooking for others. That is when I am the happiest.

So now I am off to continue on my self inflicted euphoria of joy. Later today I will be joining my friend Vicky in a viewing of New Moon.

Have to say ....... today is a good day!
Hoping all of you, my virtual friends, have a wonderful, restful, Thanksgiving!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

The Parrot

A young man named John received a parrot as a gift. The parrot had a bad attitude and an even worse vocabulary. Every work out of the bird's moouth was rude obnoxious and filled with profanity. John tried and tried to change the bird's attitude by consistently saying only polite words, playing soft music, and anything else he could think of the "clean-up" the bird's vocabulary.

Finally,John was fed up and he yelled at the bird. The parrot yelled back. John shook the parrot and the parrot got angriet and even ruder. John, in despiration, threw up his hands, grabbed the bird and put him in the freezer. For a few minutes the parrot squawked and kicked and screamed. Then sudeenly there was total quite. Not a peep was heard for over a minute. Fearing that he'd hurt the parrot, John quickly open the door to the freezer, the parrot calmly stepped out onto John's outstretched arms and said, "I believe I may have offended you with my rude language and actions. I'm sincerrly remorseful for my inappropriate transgressions and I fully intend to do everything I can to correct my rude and unforgiving behavior.

John was stunned at the change in the bird's attitude. As he was about to ask the parrot waht had made such a dramatic change in his behavior, the bird continued,,,,

"May I ask what the turkey did?"


HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Thyme Out


This past Saturday Jodi and I met up again with some old high school class mates at a little restraunt called Thyme Out.

Jodi has pretty much been my side kick since May. We have been doing a lot of things together. We have found that we like doing the same things. I have been really enjoying Jodi's company and hope to continue building our relationship.

Mindy (second from left) and I use to get in trouble for giggling in math class. How I have missed those carefree giggles.

Kathy (next to me) and I have gotten to get reunited quite a bit lately. I am really glad she came Saturday. I twas a lot easier to talk this time. We had a lot of fun. Kathy and I discussed about getting together with the husbands next time. We found we the same past times.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Another Reunion of Sorts

A few of my High School classmates decided to get together at a local bar. Since it was close to home Jodi, MD and I decided to go. This was almost an entirely different group of people than showed at the reunion picnic.

Some people changed a lot, never would have recognized them in another setting. Such as these two goofballs! The gentleman (ha) on the right, I totally remembered his name but his face.......no way. Even after sitting and talking with him, still nothing. Could have been because he was totally trashed.
Then the fellow on my right, Mark. He looks exactly the same, one of the only guys I have reunited with that looks absolutely the same. It is so funny that he is back at our high school as a teacher and coach. He absolutely LOVES it. And you can hear it when he talks about it. It was good seeing Mark again.

Tracy's husband is in a band, Jodi and I are hoping she lets us know the next time he plays in town. She is always so happy and full of energy.



Jo Ann and I both have boys the same age at the same school. Amazing that we have not run into each other before. But then again her son is in sports to where Devin has chose not. Lindin I have not seen since High School. He married a gal that I was friends with and am so happy that they are still together. My faith in young marriages is strengthened when visiting with Leah & Lindin.


Speaking of Leah (in the middle) she has not changed at all. Still just a beautiful as she was in school. I have seen pictures of her daughter OMG gorgeous must run in the family. Her daughter is freaking model exotic beautiful.



Poor Kim was blinded by MD when he snapped this picture. I don't think she knew it was coming.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Halloween

Mikayla was our only one this year that went trick r treating. MD was a little bummed as he loves rummaging through the kids candy "inspecting" it.

This year it was our house for the GATHERING. We had all these crazy girls getting ready and doing that "girl" screaming around the house. UGH 13 year girls are squeaky loud.

We got a very cute little pumpkin visitor this year. This little guy is the cutest little thing ever. He is the grandson of my very good friend VH.
Felicia snuck home for the weekend, and MD asked her to pick up white soda. What she brought home MD would not touch. You see MD works for Pepsi, has worked for them for 30 years. And she brought home a Coke product. Goofy girl.
I was very impressed with the kids this year. They showed lots of initiation and creativity in their costumes this year.
It was a good night.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Neighborhood Halloween Party

This morning I am playing catch up. I have been dealing with crazy kids,major amount of work hours, and just trying to deal with life in general.

Luckily yesterday the kids and I got the housework done, they are currently still asleep, so I am taking advantage to the QUIET.

The weekend before Halloween one of our neighbors had a Halloween party. Now last year no one dressed up. So MD and I opted our of dressing up this year (besides I was sporting a major headache and only went because MD wanted to go so bad). Well we were definitely surprised when we got there!

Our hosts looked very cute as Bill & Sookie from True Blood. I think Mark enjoyed playing Bill running around "biting" people.
Everyone had very creative costumes this year. My headache subsided a bit, I guess eating helped. They had some adorable food almost too pretty to eat.

See what I mean?

Once again we had a fabulous time with our neighbors and I am looking forward to our next gathering.

Friday, November 06, 2009

I See New Appliances in My Future

As I sit here writing this my dishwasher is making to most awful noises. The sad thing is, is that the darn thing is only 6 years old. I wish builders would put reliable appliances in the house when they build them.

Like we aren't paying ridiculous amounts for a new home in the first place?

I just refuse to go buy another until this one absolutely quits working.

Ah the joys of owning a home.

Thursday, November 05, 2009

Hindsight

After ready my last couple of posts I feel, well I feel bad. Yes I am extremely glad that Dexter is not with us. I believe that he needs to be at home with his mom. But the main reason for that is that she knows his illnesses. The boy had some serious issues. And I think that is what scared & stressed me the most.

He was not up front with us about them. he mom explained a little when I saw here. But when I went to the school, well they scared to crap out of me. The boy was in the hospital for 6 months and missed an entire year of school because of the seizures. In that 6 months at the hospital a good portion of that was in a coma. He had not idea who what and when, when he came out of the coma. And from what the nurses stated there was a whole lot more going on with Dexter.

Of course when I said anything to Dexter he started spinning his stories. Everyone else did not know what they were talking about. And I was wrong for listening to them. I think that is what bothered me most because I could see he had no intentions on following what MD and I would request.

The second and most important reason for wanting him out was Mikayla. She was extremely uncomfortable with him here and did not like being alone with him. I did not want to be uncomfortable in her own home. My responsibility is to her first she is my child not Dexter. This was not conveyed to him as I did not believe he needed to know. But this is her home first.

MD said Dexter came by yesterday afternoon to pick up his medicine that he forgot. MD said that he seemed like he was on drugs or "stoned". I explained that he seemed like that before he left. I asked who brought him here, was it his mom? He said no and he did not know who it was. Dexter said everything was okay. I feel bad for him, but he brings on most of his problems himself, not those around him.

Off to work I must go. The landfill work calls. Man them places are loud, dusty, and stinky.

Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Back down to Three

So Dexter's plans to get a ride to school failed him. At 11pm the very evening he was arguing with MD and I about riding the bus his friend called and said he COULD NOT pick him up. HA lesson learned there, MD & I are usually right.

Yesterday morning Dexter got on the bus, I finished getting ready and started to leave the house to take Devin to school. The phone rang, it was Dexter. He forgot to take his medicine (if he does not take his meds he WILL have a seizure)so that left me responsible to get him his medication. So I got Devin in the car and off the Dexter's school we went. I got there and the nurses refused to accept the medication (knowing full well Dexter needed it) because I did not have a doctors note nor did I have the pharmacy bottle (this I never had). I explained that I did not have the time to wait for Dexter's bus to get to school. They suggested that I go speak with Ms. Principle. Fine I knew her very well thanks to Devin so hopefully she would help me.

I found that Ms. Principle was in a meeting, I did not care. I walked to the door and tapped, politely asked if she could speak with me for a minute. Surprisingly she came out. I explained what was going on and she lifted her eyes to the ceiling and held out her jacket pocket. I immediately took the hint and dropped Dexter's meds in her pocket. She asked how things were going with Dexter at our house, so I briefly gave her a rundown of things going on. She said that when she spoke with him and found out that he was with us she had to laugh. She told him that he went from the frying pan to the fire. He said he did not understand what she was saying. So she told him that she knew me and that I was even stricter than his mother. And that I never take no for an answer. She said she just had to giggle. I explained I had to go and that I was going to be late for work and still had to take Devin to school.

They day went on then Dexter's mom called me to explain that he was trying to leave school early. I was thinking "this is my problem why". She went on to say that if he left he was getting 10 days suspension. She knew that if he did not go to school he would NOT be staying any longer at my house. we talked (rather she talked) of other things and I finally said that I needed to get back to work. Within the hour Ms. Principle called asking if I was still at work? My reply was yes. She asked what time I got off work, my reply 5pm. She went on to tell me that Dexter left school but was still wondering around the school grounds trying to get a ride to my house. I explained that I was NOT going to leave work to get him. He wan walk since he decided to leave early and refused to ride the proper bus. She talked some more then again I explained that I needed to get back to work. An hour later Ms. Principle called again. wanting to discuss the suspension with me (um why? I am not mom), at that point I explained that Dexter was at my home (Mikayla called and let me know) and that I could not discuss him at that moment. She asked if she could call the house to speak with him, I gave her the number.

I had called MD explained everything that went on with my day and Dexter. I am stressed beyond stressed. I have not been this stressed even with everything with Devin and that is ridiculous. While I was running errands with Mikayla MD explained to Dexter that he had to go, that I was a mess and he could not have that. I took Dexter home after we had dinner. His mom I don't think really wanted him to come home but I was not giving either of them a choice. Dexter tried several times in talking me out of it. My answer was work this out with your mom. He repeatedly tried making me feel guilty for making him leave and I called him on it. I told him that it was not helping him that he kept doing that and all that was doing was making me mad. When I got to his mothers she was not answering the door, so I called her, told her he was at the door and to let him in. When she did I drove off and never looked back.

We really need to start saying no in the future.

Monday, November 02, 2009

Never take anything at Face value

In my last post I mentioned that we have let one of Devin's friends stay with us after a police officer asked that we let him stay for a while so he and his mother could cool off.

Well that was 4 days ago and we still have the young man here. I asked that he speak with his mother on Sunday to work things out and make sure he had plenty of medication (this is something I will go into in a bit). When he was brought back again by the police I asked what happened. He said she is crazy and refused to give him clothes and they got in another arguments.

He tried with all his might to get Felicia to side with him in the arguments. I would not budge in this. I tried explaining to him that we as mothers only want what is best for our children. Even if it does not seem like it to the kid.

Needless to say the stories kept coming. I tried to keep giving this confused young man the benefit of the doubt. Plus he somehow got on MD's soft side. For once it is I who is the heavy and MD is the soft one. I don't know what he sees in this kid I mean he is a nice kid and all but there is just something that bugs me. I don't know what.

MD and I had a discussion tonight with Dexter. Asking what his plans are, explaining that this was a temporary situation. Dexter started with stories on how awful his mom is, how awful his life is etc etc etc. MD sucking it up the whole time. Meanwhile I started see HUGE holes in his stories. Things he has told us before not jiving with what he is telling us now. We told him again that he needs to speak with his mom and work things out. He said that he could not she will not let him come home. She will not work things out with him. So I asked if it would help if I spoke with his mother. He adamantly refused that. Said that I could not and should not speak with his mother.

The bug got buggier!

I had to go take Mikayla to dance and on the way back I saw a policeman sitting in his car. I stopped and asked him questions. He said said that my idea about talking to his mom was a good one and I should probably do so. I said I was not exactly sure of where she lived, I just an idea of where. So he did me a favor, first he asked me the last name, I did not have that. So he check the police records of the two days that I mentioned. He found her address and gave it to me and bid me good luck.

I had a nice chat with his mom, found out a lot of the things he said were not true. He told us he had no other family to turn too, his grandmother was dead. That little bit of info crushed his mom. His grandmother is alive and well. Dexter has MAJOR medical issues. More than I am comfortable handling. She did say he was not welcome unless he was willing to follow her rules.

OMG he is doing it again right now, arguing with us about how he is getting to school. We told him to ride the bus he argued with us. I already spoke with his mom she said the principle tried to get him on the bus and he refused. Now he is arguing with us about it. I and starting to get very frustrated. Because now he does not want me to call the school.

His days are numbered I am telling ya. I don't like people trying to make a fool of me.

Friday, October 30, 2009

The House with The Swinging Door

Years ago when Felicia was still in high school she had a friend that was having problems at home. Kay (is what we will call her) was bouncing around from friends house to friends house. She was running out of places to go so Felicia asked if she could stay with us till graduation. I said yes with one stipulation, she had to follow the rules of the house. I did after all have brother and sister to think about.

Following house rules meant in by curfew, with the exception of being at work. Going to school everyday. And if you don't go to school you don't go to work. And helping around the house and picking up after yourself.

Well it lasted for a couple of weeks. Things happened and I explained to Kay that if it happened again she would not be welcomed to stay any longer. Then we found out that Kay had lice, since she slept with Felicia I check her and YES she had lice also! Bummer we have never had to deal with this ever. Then I check Mikayla and BAM she had them too. Devin escaped the bugs. I went to the store bought what I needed to de-bug the girls. They all of course had to stay home from school. Which meant they miss work. Kay decided she needed to work. I explained that 1 it was a health issue she should not be working at a restaurant with bugs in her hair. and 2 that was breaking the house rules. She said she was going to work. I said then she would have to find somewhere else to stay.

Now I did not totally turn my back on the girl, she still would come over and I would treat her hair. Then when they graduated she got ready here and I took pictures of the girls. But I could not have her staying here with refusing to follow rules. I do have to say we miss Kay and she was a very sweet and her and Felicia were such good friends and still are. Felicia just flew to Texas for her wedding. Kay brought her boyfriend here so he could meet us which I loved. I am glad she understood the reasons I would not let her stay with us.

Well it seems it's Devin's turn to bring home the lost puppy. We now have another boy living here. We will call him Dexter. The police showed up here Friday night and asked MD if he could stay with us for a while. What was MD going to say ....no? From what we understand there was a fight between he and his mother and she had him in a head lock and hitting him. I was shocked, I have met this women before, she is this little petite thing. It was hard for me to imagine this but then again I did only meet her once. He is 18 so I guess that is why the police let him go to a friends house vs family services. But now MD and I are wondering how long he will be staying. To listen to Dexter he is here forever or at least till graduation. I am not so sure about that. We will have to see how this affects Devin. So far it has been a good thing for Devin, but I can see where it will wear on him. I guess when that happens we will then have to decide what to do then.

What I can not believe is that these kids parents are not going nuts looking for them, wanting them back home. Kay never went back home. She left my house in early December, graduated high school a semester early (in December) and went to Texas to stay with an aunt. I wonder if we are going to have Dexter here that long?

Monday, October 26, 2009

And We Have Lift Off

Just received a call from a gentleman at Quest. We have an intake meeting appointment tomorrow at 1pm. He starts his new school on Wednesday. I was told that if I could get in at 9am tomorrow he will stay for the rest of the day.

I can't swing that at work on this short of notice. I mean I guess I could just do it but then I am leaving my office in the lurch with no assistants. We are all scrambling as it is trying to fiqure out how we are going to get everything our clients want done completed befroe the end of the year!

Funny coincidence is that first thing this morning the school finally emailed me back about a staffing meeting for Devin, we settled on a date and time, then couple hours later Quest called. Guess I can cancel the school meeting.

My calendar has so many scratch off marks from schedule changes it is ridiculous!

Mom and Dad don't worry about Devin. We are all HOPING that this is a good thing for him. The whole school is supposed to be like an IEP (Individual Eduction Program)and Devin will get a lot of individual attention/assistance. Or at least that is what we are told. Only down fall is that we have to provide transportaion. But they know we both work full time and are willing work with us on providing one way, either there or back. We shall see how that works out with everthing.

I think I need a drink.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

We are in a Holding Pattern

I haven't said much lately about Devin and his goings on. Basically because that is we are in a holding pattern. He is not in trouble any longer legally with the exception of being on probation. That will not go away anytime soon. But when it comes to school the boy has mentally checked out.

For some reason this year he has decided he cannot get to his 1st or 4th hours on time. Our school district has this nifty little website that I can at anytime check in and see class work grades, attendance, tardies, special announcements, and lunch account balances. So when I noticed that he was having a problem getting to his 4th hour class I immediately emailed his principle looking for suggestions on what to do to head this off. Her response "let's wait till he gets to 10 first". Okay first off when you get to 10 tardies you get a 4 hour Saturday detention, which violates his probation (get in NO trouble in school or at home). I was very upset with this suggestion, I did not want to wait until it got out of hand. Guess the school does not believe in being proactive just reactive. SUCKS!

So I TRIED to head it off myself, explaining to Devin what will happen when he gets too many tardies. He of course gave all kinds of excuses on why he is late to just his one class. And nothing I could say would sink in. He ended up not only getting 10 tardies (which like I said got him one 4 hour detention) he got so many that he got 20 hours of detentions!

As if getting ALL these detention hours were not enough, Devin decided he would NOT do them. Which resulted in 3 days of in school suspension. And then I guess he got "bored" in that setting and goofed off. That landed him a 1 day out of school suspension. And then the next thing i know he has another 3 days in school suspension.

He did not get a clue on how his actions in school would affect him out of school. When we kept talking to him regarding just this fact he would respond every time with "my probation never said anything about tardies" and "they can't do anything about me in school".

Last Friday he was proved VERY wrong. His probation officer had us come in for a meeting, and SHE explained to Devin that what and how he behaves in school very much affects his probation. She was very upset with him and she let him know it. She explained that everything he does everywhere affects his probation and the courts decision on what to do with him. She revised his probation rules explained each in detail. Hoping I guess to make him understand the severity of the situation.

It did not sink in.
She showed up for her bi-weekly meeting with him that very next Monday. And found out from him, MD, and I that he did not follow his rules over the weekend! She was set to send him to DYS (division of youth services). Devin plead his case and talked her out of that. But he could not talk her out of sending him to Quest. Quest is a state run transition school for kids coming out of DYS or kids on their way in.

Oh did I mention that NOW the school wants to discuss Devin's progress or there lack of. Now really? I have been asking for help for the last 2 months. I explained that I would love for them to finally help me and Devin. And that I have already contacted the Learning Disabilities Association (at the request of his neurologist) and they too are reviewing his IEPs and grades. Funny thing, after I mentioned who I contacted, they never responded back to me. Still waiting.

Probation officer contacted me Friday to inform me that the Quest office will be contacting me this upcoming week to schedule and in-take meeting and get Devin transferred.

On the up side!!!!!!! Devin has been working with MD on the weekends. They have been getting along much better. And as far as his attitude..........it has been fabulous. That is the one thing that throws everyone. Even when he is in the principles office for the tardies, she said he was extremely pleasant to speak with. Probation officer says the same thing.

So just sitting on the holding pattern, waiting for take off.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Who is Your Inner Pegan Goddess



Diana

Diana is the chaste huntress of Greek/Roman mythology. She is also the goddess of the moon, therefore her movement is just as mysterious and shadowy. She is very moody, the opposite of her brother the sun god Apollo, but very protective of innocence.


Okay I buy it.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Another Business Endevor


Audrey is once again looking for that extra income to help her make ends meet. It is hard being a single mom. But what's harder is a single mom with expensive taste, and that is my sister. Don't get me wrong she has toned down her spending since she got her divorce. But she still has champagne taste. That and the ex doesn't seem to want to pay his child support. Oh but that is a different rant for another day.

She has taken on little side jobs (so to say) to help supplement her income. I forget all of them but I do remember there was Pampered Chef and now Lea Sophia jewelery. I hosted a party for both of these little endeavors. Of course I did benefit also, you know getting the "free" stuff.

My friends and neighbors were great, they all came to show support for my sister.

They showed SO much support I was able to get over $700 worth of jewelery for $130. And Since I rarely wear jewelery I shared my good fortune with a few friends that are in tough spots right now. Some are single moms with college kids, some are in the middle of a separation/divorce. So I let them partake in some discounts also.

Besides I really do not need that much jewelery.

Even our friend Cindy flew in from New York to come to my party to help Audrey!

Actually she was flying in anyway, Missouri is part of her territory and she gets to visit whenever she has to be in town.

I wish Audrey all the luck in the world. But what I really wish is that she would get out of the money pit house she lives in and move her butt closer to me. Lot easier to help and hang together if it didn't cost 1/2 a tank of gas to see her!

Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Firemen + Sand Volley Ball = FUN

Last Sunday the weather was absolutely beautiful. Not hot and not cold, as Little Red Riding Hood would say it was just perfect.
Jodi and I have an old acquaintance that we have re-connected with on FaceBook and he is a Fireman in the area. He posted (on FB) that they were doing a fundraiser for MD at their local union hall, Sand Volleyball and for anyone interested to come on out.

I was looking for an excuse to get out of the house. So I called a couple friends and off we went.


I am not sure how I did it, but I got Devin to go with me and enjoy the weather with his mom. He refused to play but he did take all the pictures. And he did a very good job if I might say.


He got quite a few "action" shots.


Denny (our fireman friend) was very excited that Jodi and I came to play.

Said his team needed all the help they could get.
I am guessing that they lost the first round they played before we got there.

Jodi and I explained that it had been years since we have played so don't expect a miracle.

We got on our ready and gave it our all. We actually made some VERY impressive shots. That is if I do say so myself. I did surprise even myself and Nathan (my friend Alicia's son).
(my victory dance)