Tuesday, March 31, 2009

You Just Got to Love Pets!

Okay, so I really was going to post something else, but then a neighbor gave me this and I just had to share.

If you have ever had kittens and a husband you will fall on you face laughing. Or maybe I just have a twisted sense of humor.

Anyway here it is and I hope it makes you smile, laugh, forget today's grumpy parts.

Calling sick to work makes me uncomfortable. No matter how legitimate my excuse, I always get the feeling that my boss thinks I’m lying. On one recent occasion, I had a valid reason but lied anyway, because the truth was just too damned humiliating. I simply mentioned that I had sustained a head injury, and I hoped I would feel up to coming in the next day. By then, I reasoned, I could think up a doozy to explain the bandage on the top of my head. The accident occurred mainly because I had given in to my wife’s wishes to adopt a cute little kitten. Initially the new acquisition was no problem.

Then one morning, I was taking my shower after breakfast when I heard my wife, Deb, call out to be from the kitchen. “Honey! The Garbage disposal is dead again. Please come reset it.”

“You know where the button is,” I protested through the shower pitter-patter and steam. “Reset it yourself!” “But I’m scared!” she persisted. “What if it starts going and sucks me in?” There was a meaningful pause and then, “C’mon, it’ll only take you a second.” So out I came, dripping wet and butt naked, hoping that my silent outrage nudity would make a statement about how I perceived her behavior as extremely cowardly.

Sighing loudly, I squatted down and stuck my head under the sink to find the button. It is the last action I remember performing. It struck without warning, and without any respect to my circumstances. No, it wasn’t the hexed disposal drawing me into its gnashing metal teeth. It was our new kitten, who discovered the fascinating dangling objects she spied hanging between my legs. She had been poised around the corner and stalked me as I reached under the sink. And, at the precise moment when I was most vulnerable, she leapt at the toys I unwittingly offered and snagged them with her needle-like claws. I lost all rational thought to control orderly bodily movements, blindly rising at a violent rate of speed with the full weight of a kitten hanging from my masculine region.

Wild animals are sometimes faced with a “fight or flight” syndrome. Men, in this predicament, choose only the “flight” option. I know this from experience. I was fleeing straight up into the air when the sink and cabinet bluntly and forcefully impeded my ascent. The impact knocked me out cold.

When I awoke, my wife and the paramedics stood over me. Now there are not many things in this life worse than finding oneself lying on the kitchen floor butt naked in front of “been-there-done-that” paramedics. Even worse, having been fully briefed by my wife, the paramedics were all snorting loudly as they tried to conduct their work, all the while trying to suppress their hysterical laughter …. And not succeeding.

Somehow I lived through it all. A few days later I finally made it back into the office, where colleagues tried to coax an explanation out of me about my head injury. I kept silent, claiming it was too painful to talk about, which it was. “What’s the matter?” They all asked “Cat got your tongue?”

If they only knew!

Monday, March 30, 2009

Not Bad For a First Attempt

Yes I attempted to bake again. My cupcake bites did not turn out "picture perfect" but we had fun and they were tasty.

It was a nice way to spend time with Mikayla, she had fun rolling the cake into balls.

It was also nice to be able to spend time with Vicky. With everything going on in both our lives it does not leave much time for just hangin. It use to be fun just hangin.

We were making these to bring to a wine party. Another neighbor was bring Chocolate Cherry Port, so we thought these little babies would go perfectly!

If you can not tell from the picture the theme of the party was All American. We were to wear red, white, and blue and bring a bottle of American made wine. So V and I only thought it appropriate that the cupcake bites be red white and blue.

They may not have been the prettiest deserts there but they sure eaten fast enough.

Switching to something a bit different ......... Check out these SHOES!

Yes these are shoes, called 5 finger shoes. Why they call them 4 fingers is beyond me. To me they remind me of Kermit the Frog from the Muppet's. Kermit shoes, he he. How funny.

They also remind me of toe socks. Erin says that they feel pretty much the same but with a hard rubber sole (to protect the foot). She said they are very very comfortable. Like being barefoot.

But I still think of Kermit every time I look at them. She had to bring a set of boots to change into as their is no way she could wear these things on any landfill. They do not have that much rubber on them!

Sunday, March 29, 2009


Last night at the party (pics to come later) around 12:30 we wet outside (probably due to some of us having to go outside to smoke) and noticed it was snowing. Just a little, more sleet really than snow.

BUT at 1:30 when we decided that it was way past the old peoples bed time and that we should be making our way home (watch out Felicia and Carrie you NEVER know when creepy mom will be on Facebook checking to see what you two are up to). THIS is what we walked into.......

A freaking blizzard! I mean absolutely huge snow flakes. Best snow we received ALL winter. By the time we left we had and inch of snow piled on our car (picture is AFTER we drove around and got home, there was way more on it when we first got to it).

MD and Jim (neighbor 2 doors down) thought it would be fun to drive around in it even though you could not see farther than 3-4 feet in front of the car. Such little boys, we ended up in the church parking lot (in our subdivision) doing donuts. Did I mention these "boys" are 49 years old! Ahh, rekindled youth, the male gene, whatever you want to call it they decided to get very "irresponsible" in the snow. Michelle and I just sat (held on for dear life) in the back seat, shaking our heads at the immaturity.

Finally MD brought us home. We slipped and slid into our garage. And we do not have a very steep drive, but the incline none the less had us sliding into our garage.

We really thought we would see some good accumulation this morning. But when we got up and looked outside it was my turn to feel like a little kid.....disappointment. It was almost all melted already. No outside snow fun to be had today.

This is more than likely the way the kids will be spending the day, in front of the computer and TV. MD I believe is spending his in the bathroom, his belly is making A LOT of noise this morning. Lot's or antacids last night. He He He He. He forgets he is not a young pup anymore.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Old Man Winter's Last HU-Rah

They are calling for SNOW!
Really it is March already. The weather people have not really got a handle of how much if any we will really get. Felicia mentioned last night that weather reports are calling for 6 to 12 inches where she is (3 1/2 hours from home). It is just raining now at 38 degrees. Cold and wet yuk.

A perfect day for reading and baking! I am now reading The Last Lecture. So far very good, very enjoyable, and all together a good read.

In addition to that Vicky and I are going to attempt to make some cupcake bites (Thanks Pioneer Woman for posting this recipe) for the wine party we are going to tonight. And yes I will be taking pictures of our progress and make you suffer through it later. Sorry it is just something I have to do. This should be an experience not soon forgotten.

And as I mentioned we are going to a neighbors for the "Kirk's Annual Wine Tasting Party" the theme this year is All American. We are to wear colors of red, white, and blue, and a bottle of American wine for the tasting. Last year was sooo much fun, but I have been informed that MD and I may have left a bit early as it got kind of crazy after we left. Hum ..... maybe that was a good thing we left early as after all these ARE my neighbors. I still have to look these people in the eyes day after day. I do not think in all good conscious I could do that after behaving poorly in front of them.

In the end I am sure we (as usual) will have a wonderful time, eat amazing food (Pat is an amazing cook) and taste many types of wine.

I am especially looking forward the Jim's (another neighbor) homemade Chocolate Cherry Port! Last year he brought Chocolate Orange Port and it was ... mouthwatering, amazing, delicious, made for the GODS good.

Tim of course makes beer and wine at his home. He has grapes growing in his back yard. MD has gone to his home for tastings and come back snookered! Just from tasting, too funny, he must be a light weight. MD will argue against such a comment and blame it on the strength of the beer. But he admits they are really good and easy going down, never know your getting snookered until you are trying to get home, luckily we live in close walking distance.

So all I have to say to old man winter is .... Bring it on, best you got. I am ready for you and will have a pleasurable weekend regardless what you throw at us.

P.S. Devin has had a very well behaved yesterday and so far today. Helping around the house, no arguing (helps Mikayla was gone), and made good choices when friends kept trying to get him to come out (know he was grounded of course). Therefore he earns a TV back.

Thursday, March 26, 2009

A reason but not an Excuse

Devin had his conference with the psychologist and it went much the same as this morning but slightly better. He answered her questions in a volume that she could at least hear and was not as rude as he was this morning. This bothered me because really Devin has never behaved this way outside of the house. I am unfortunately use to his manner at home but never ever had it gone to this extreme and never with people of authority.

All day he had been trying to sleep, I would wake him up and he goes right back to sleep. Even after we arrived back home this afternoon he went to bed and slept till 8pm. MD and I were quite bothered over this and tried to come up with reasons for his behavior or at least understand why. Just then I got into a cabinet in the kitchen where we keep his medication, I noticed then that his sleeping pills were up front. It hit me then he took the wrong medication this morning. No wonder all he wanted to do was sleep. Now this is really no excuse for his rudeness, but it does explain quite a lot.

This makes me feel a bit better and will be discussing with Devin about another meeting with his PO so she can see what he is like awake, truly awake and not fighting off sleep. We shall see what the cards hold for his future now.

A Dreaded Day Right From the Start

I have veered from blogging about our trials with Devin because, well continually dwelling on them was starting to bend my brain in ways that hurt. MD and I have come to the resound conclusion that we have and are doing everything we CAN to help this kid but he continually makes BAD choices. And with that we can not help him , therefore HE will have to deal with the consequences.

With all that said, last week Devin had an appointment with a Juvenal officer to decide if his offences were "court required" or if probation would suffice. Devin was amazing. He was respectful, answered questions when asked, spoke so one would be able to hear him, and dressed appropriately. The decision then was that probation would suffice and that he did not need to go to court and see a judge. We explained to Devin on the way home how proud we were of the way behaved at the meeting. That he was FINALLY making the right decisions (behavior choices). We even decided to lighten up on him at home (you know a little reward) and let him start seeing some of his friends.

The last three days proved that was a HUGE MISTAKE. Since we have allowed him to start seeing his friends his "attitude" and behavior has gone right back to nothing short of abominable. He is back to sneaking out (even with the alarm set, he found windows that are not triggered), not doing chores requested, speaking to us and his sister as if we were trash, and then this morning

I had to take Devin to meet his probation officer and to receive his rules of probation. I have NEVER been so MORTIFIED. His total LACK of respect for this lady was appalling. He sat there with eyes closed, mumbling when spoken to, arguing and sending daggers at me when I spoke. I honestly wanted to fly out of my chair and plaster him against the wall. The officer several time loudly spoke "HEY" to get him to look at her.

Finally when the session was done he just left and went to the truck (not waiting for me). At that time the office said to me "good luck". I smile at her with a humph and just shook my head. I apologized for Devin's behavior. I explained that he was not like this at all at the last meeting that his behavior was the total opposite of what she witnessed today. I could only surmise that he behaved this way because of his friends influences. They have told him that the probation is no big deal and that nothing will happen to him if he does not follow the rules (obviously they have first hand experience with this as they are ALL on probation) I had nothing else, no explanation why he behaved so poorly. She said she hopes that he really understands that she is not messing around with him and that she means business but she is not expecting as much with his behavior this morning. It sounded as she was preparing me for the fact that he will end up before a judge.

MD and I are now at a loss, not sure what to do next. If he makes it through the rest of the school year without getting sent away we are sending him to military leadership camp this summer. We have hope that they will be able to what we have failed to do.

What else can we do, lock him in a closet all the time? He unfortunately is going to find out all his life woes are not because of us, that he is creating his own demise. Life is getting very hard for Mr. Devin.

And we still have his physiologist session this afternoon, should prove to be more fun.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Blog Cooking Anyone?

I use to love to cook, bake, create whatever. When it was just MD, Felicia and I it was fun to cook. They would eat anything and everything. I use to make a different meal every night so that we never had the same meal ever in a month. I will say that some of them had us running for McDonald's. But over all they were pretty good.

Once Devin and Mikayla came along, I got real busy obviously. Working full time with 3 kids made me a bit crazy at times. That and the fact that Devin and Mikayla are the pickiest eaters I have ever seen. And they go through phases, and of course the mom is the last to know what they will be currently willing to eat.

Lately I have found several blogs that are primarily cooking blogs. And the pictures have made me remembering when I loved to cook. So I have decided I need a break in kids, and their dramas. I am going to go back to cooking. It will be an adventure I am sure as it has been years since I really dove in and got my hands dirty.

Hope my neighbors and coworkers are hungry. With Felicia away at college I am down to just MD to eat everything everything. Mikayla and Devin I guess will be eating a lot of cereal if they do not want what is put in front of them.

Check out some of the places I found .... and check out their oh so yummy dishes.

Want a pretty drink? Try this one.

Bakerella was recently featured on The Pioneer Woman Cooks. She too makes yummy deserts. Can not wait to try to make these beauties.

Of course everyone knows PW. And what can I say her Apple Dumplings (Felicia & I have renamed them "better than Sex dumplings") are mouth watering. MD has me make them all the time!


You want to try something different try Phoo-D's Hungarian Gulyas Vienna Style. It looks so delicious.


Want to see amazing cakes, just stop here. She makes some of the coolest cakes.

All so yummy, you should check them ALL out.

Sunday, March 22, 2009

I just received my first Blogger Award! Too cool, the thought that somebody out there actually 1 reads my babble and 2 they come back!

I received my award from Laggin at Under the Roof of a Great House. She is defiantly my virtual rock. Thank you soooo much for all of your parental support!

Here are the rules:

1. Post the logo on your blog.
2.Nominate at least 10 blogs that show great attitude or gratitude.
3.Link to the nominees within your blog post.
4.Notify the recipients of the award by commenting on their blog.
5.Share the love and link back to the person whom you received your award.

So to follow the rules and share the love I am sending the love to:

1. My overly energetic VF at My 5 Little Monkeys and Run Forest Run (see what I mean by energetic) for all her words of support.

2. To Michelle at Creative Treasures for her amazing crafty ideas, so inspiring.

3. For Rachael at Huse Blog is it Anyway for her absolutely positive look at everything.

and lastly (I know I am to do 10, but I am not that personally connected yet to that many people.

4. Erin at MO Mommy as it is her fault (though I believe she is unaware of this as it was her husband leading me to her blog) that I started blogging in the first place.

5. I have to give the LOVE back to Laggin at Under the Roof of a Great House. Whom I recently met and had coffee with. She made me feel I was not a horrible person (or mom) and gave words of support as we discussed our child woes.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

A New Beginning

Devin met with his new therapist, counselor, whatever you want to call her. In my book she is a miracle worker.
For the first time EVER from coming home from a visit like this, Devin was not aggravated, mean, or distant. He was actually chatty, non-threatening. He even went home and did his homework without much arguing. Then this afternoon he had a meeting with his home bound teacher, which went well.
When I picked him up from his meeting I took him to do clothes shopping he was in a good mood even. First was to Old Navy for pants, shirt, undergarments and a hat (at the request of Devin). Then off to Supermarket of shoes for new shoes. I know this does not seem like note worthy news but this is actually a big thing. Devin HATES shopping, it does not matter that he has absolutely NOTHING that fits in his closet or gaping holes in his shoes. He refuses to ever go shopping, or going to restaurants, or the grocery store. He has a fit if we even ask him to go and so we have stopped including him when we go out to eat as a family. But not today no sir re! Granted he was not happy that I made him try the clothes on before I bought them, but he did it while growling at the beginning. But in the end he was compliant and did what was asked.
Then in preparation of tomorrows meeting the Juvenal office, I informed Devin he was getting a hair cut. This really made him mad. But again while growling, he did it.
We had what I would say a very impressive day and what I hope the beginning of many good impressive days!

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Happy Birthday Tom

Our good friend turned the big 50 on the 16th. So we celebrated it on Sunday with dinner to one of his favorite places (and mine). We ate at the hibachi bar which was entertaining to say the least. Nothing like paying to have food thrown at you. But when the chef was done and served us our dinner, it was just amazingly delicious. The steak melted in my mouth and the shrimp! Oh the shrimp was amazing (when it was not being thrown into your face). Salad, soup, scallops all of it was amazing. Every time we eat there it is amazing.

Of course the men thoroughly enjoyed themselves, probably too much. MD had stomach aches when we got home he ate so much.

I love going out with friends, always makes the real world problems disappear.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Book Review

Okay so since Thanksgiving I have picked up a new hobby ........................ Reading. Imagine that. I started off of course with Twilight, New Moon, Eclipse, and Breaking Dawn, I even got online and read what I could of Midnight Sun.. By Christmas I was out of material around the house to read. Well that is not exactly true, I do have some Steven King lying around that I have not gotten into, but I have not been in the mood for THAT type of reading.

I actually read this series something like 3-4 times. I was hooked and hooked bad. But after reading these books so many times it was hard to read through every page. So I sought after more material.

Felicia and MD got me The Host for Christmas. Had that done by new years. DS at work is so excited about my new hobby that she regularly sends me notes about what she is currently reading. She even bragged to her Librarian mother about my new hobby. Too cute those two are.
Again, very good read. And a very easy read. I even lent this to DS at work so she would have reading material for her plane ride. She CRIED through the whole book as did Felicia. I must be an emotional shrew, I felt no need to drop a tear until towards the end.

I even took one of Devin's books from his room and read it. Stone Heart. Very good for Middle School-High School reading. It is a trilogy and I need to get the rest to see how things actually end. I do not like not knowing how a story ends.

I just finished with The Distance Between Us. Not a bad read, but not something I will re-read.

About an extraordinarily talented (mostly musical) and dysfunctional family in the town of Bolton, Illinois. The main character Hester is a full of spit and vinegar 71 year old lady. Who by my opinion has every right to be as mean and nasty as she is due to the fact her husband had been having a 15 years plus affair. But it seems the town and her family think otherwise. It tells of how she deals with the affair, loss of a child and the dysfunction of her family. I like her and her Strong personality and how she takes no crap from anyone. She befriends the boy that rents her upstairs apartment and their friendship is endearing.

I am now onto The Shack. It was on a Must Read list so I picked up. But right from the start it seems to be a religious book and I am not sure how far I will get through it. I am not a big believer in Organized Religion. I have heard mixed feelings on the book. We shall see and I will let you know. BUT if you are of the religious type then maybe the book is something for you.

The Battle of Wills

Devin actually did not argue about donating his time on a nearby farm Thursday, surprising! I dropped him off about 7am and picked him up when I got off work about 5pm. Mr. & Mrs. Farmer explained everything Devin did all day, starting with feeding the chickens, horses, and cows. Next they had to clean out the chicken house (which by the way had been neglected for the last two months), a couple of horse stables and where they feed the cows. Next on Devin's agenda was assisting Mr. Farmer with designing and building some sort of wood shelf. Mr. Farmer said he was quite impressed as Devin came up with most of the design and cut all the wood and was very helpful in putting it together.
Devin came home hungry tired and was VERY well behaved all evening. He is due to go back Monday, but not as long as he has to meet with a home bound teacher at 2:30 to go over any homework he needs help with.
Devin is actually looking forward to going back, really, no fits. It was actually MD having a fit about it. He did not approve of me pawning our son out for free labor. That from 7 am to 5pm was WAY too long, that it is against child labor laws, and on and on and on.
I asked him would he rather Devin sit home all day playing video games and watching TV while he was on suspension? he replies "no, but that is just punishing him again". My response was "so" . MD just expels a heavy sigh and goes to the garage to smoke. I follow and ask him what should I be doing, since A. Devin refuses to do home work while we are gone, B. I can not quite working, and C. he refuses (MD) to aid in all of this. He response with an "I don't know what to do". So I tell him that it is okay that he does not, but let me do what I know how to do and to back me up on it. He just grunted, but no longer argued with me. At least about Devin and the Farm.
Next he went into a stint with Felicia and the whole wedding thing. Again, he was just ranting and would not and could not be reasoned with. Not that I disagree with him a bit, but the way he approaches things is wrong. Plus he was just mad and wanted to yell at somebody.
Friday Devin refused to do any school work with Felicia. Kept calling her names and throwing fits. One of his fits ended with a hole in my wall, that of course stopped him in his tracks. He of course was worried about what MD would do when he found out. I told Devin that he would deserve anything coming to him, but I would make a deal with him. He needed to calm down, sit with Felicia and do his homework. He was meeting a teacher at 2:30 and needed to have work completed so they could turn it in. Otherwise I would leave him to deal with MD on his own. How depressing, I am forced to threats to get him to do his work.
I also called MD and explained to him that I was giving him fair warning. That if he did not remove the televisions from Devin's room by the time I got home, I could not and would not guarantee that when I finished with them that they would ever work again. MD asked what happened now, I explained that Devin is once again pitching fits about doing homework. he says fine and tells me he will see me later and hangs up the phone. Of course when I got home they were still in his room.
Eventually Devin completed some homework with Felicia and then completed all his math with the teacher.
Which leads us to today, again he refused to do any homework. So I promptly went to his room and removed the televisions (yes he had two), the electric guitar, his Play station, PSP, DS, and every other electronic devise (other than the alarm clock) from his room. I clean out the closet, under the bed and dressers and put away all clothes. of course Devin was downstairs having a fit because of what I was doing, and I might add I did not harm one wire in the TVs both are still in working order. Just not in his room.
I do not know how he did it, but he calmed down and has been sitting at the Dining room table for the last two hours doing home work. He of course has been calling for Felicia ever 15 minutes or so to help, but he is doing it. Science is just about completed, Felicia and I are unable to figure out some of it to help him so he will have to go over that with the teacher on Monday. He is also completing the Romeo and Juliet packet for English. He has a bit of Social Studies work left and Health. Fabulous! He might actually go back to school in better shape (grade wise) then when he left!
I WIN! And in the end HE WINS.
I know I should not be like that but it feels good. Sorry! But not really.
Now I have to get ready to "DRESS SHOP" for wedding dresses with Felicia. I did explain to her that we (I) was not buying ANYTHING today. I still have to pay for her trip (part of it) to Italy, her college needs, and now Devin's legal needs. I am not ponying up cash for a Wedding that may or may not happen until September 2010.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

The Next Big Internet Fad

So it seems that the new thing on the Internet is FaceBook. My kids were all into the myspace thing as well as my sister and father. Everyone was telling me I needed a MySpace account. I never fell for it. I never saw any reason for it. Anyone I really wanted to speak with is either here in my blog world, or lives close enough to be that I can either speak with them face to face or gee maybe a phone call.

But now my sister calls me and tells me that an old high school friend of mine is "looking" for me. I asked her how she knew this, of course her answer was "she got a hold of her through FaceBook".

With her continuous prodding I reluctantly signed on to FaceBook. Within a 24 hour period I had bunches of people requesting to be "My Friend". Some of them I of course went a head and agreed to, as they really were my friends in high school. I chatted with some the normal "what have you been doing" conversations. Surprised at how close some actually lived to me and I never run into anywhere.
Others wanting to be my friend, I have no idea who they are ....... I mean really I had a graduating class of over 700. There is no way I would know the entire graduating class. Some of these people asking to be my friend graduated 2 years after me. How do they even know who I am other than the fact that they new my sister.
I was not a popular person in high school. I pretty much kept to myself and the small circle of friends I hung out with. I was barely even in school my senior year as I was part of the Business Education Work Program. So really, just because I graduated a particular year does that really mean we should NOW be friends. Especially when in reality you would have not have given me the time of day in school?

Really people is there a contest to see how many people you have signed on as your friend? I even have my DAUGHTER'S FRIENDS asking to be my friends. Of course I accept them to keep tabs on what is up in here circle. (sneaky mom act).

In the end I did find several good friends that I did loose touch with, which was nice, and hopefully I will not need FaceBook to keep in touch with them in the future.
But it is getting out of control with "Wants to be Friends" stuff. If you did not want to be friends with me back in school then why be friends with me now?

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Another Day In The Life

Well I have searched everywhere for somewhere that Devin could do community service. And due to his age I am finding it very difficult. No one will allow him to do anything unless I am present. Of course that defeats my purpose of finding him something to do while I am at work. It feels like I have small children again and looking for childcare. Nothing like banging your head continuously against a brick wall.

Lucky for me, there is a working farm just up the street (yes a little county in the middle of the burbs) and I stopped by last Friday to discuss the possibility of Devin helping out there during the week. The owners are extremely patient and friendly. Devin has spent a lot of time there helping out over the last couple of summers. Ms Farmer (of course not their names) seemed very interested in helping and thought it would be a great idea. Mr. Farmer wanted to discuss it with the Ms first. I was hoping it would go in our favor, as I am out of options.

Ms. Farmer called today while I was at work, Devin spoke with her. He let me know that she will be calling back this evening, but she did agree that Devin could help out when she was home. She has taken a job outside of the farm a couple days a week.

SO YEA! We have an activity to keep him busy.

He is currently working on homework, not willingly I might add, but he is doing it. He will be going to a wrestling school starting next week. I am sure he will be grumpy but he needs to start putting energy into something besides trouble. Besides he wrestled for two years and was pretty good at it. And I have been told over and over again that with as light as he is (5' 5" and 102 lbs) is will be a hot commodity. So off he goes. Pray for me as he will make my life miserable if he really does not like it.

But it is what I say to do now or he will end up behind bars later.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Really, When is Enough, Enough

Okay, so Devin did something VERY stupid. Got in trouble from the police for it and that in its self I believe is enough. The officer did not go easy on him, this was at my request. His face was pure terror! Which is just what I wanted. Hoping that he will learn from THIS mistake.

(this is not Devin, but is about how he felt)

Then the high school found out about it and suspended him for 10 days. Okay so they have their rules about misbehaving on school property I get that. But then I go and pick up Devin from his meeting with the home bound teacher and she informed that the superintendent will more than likely extend his suspension another 30 days.

Yes I said THIRTY.

Does this really make sense to keep punishing him for something he is already paying for. In reality he could have denied the whole incident and would have never gotten in trouble. But (not that I am defending him in any way, he does deserve to be in trouble) he bucked up, confessed to the crime, and he is/will do his time. But enough is enough already. Really how is this going to help him being out of school for 40 days!

For a school system that keeps pimping the story "no child left behind" and "that kids are their main priority" this seems a bit too much. He already has issues trying to stay on task. Not that his ADHD is the only reason for his distraction. He is very bored in traditional classes, but MD and I can not affofd an alternative school for him.

Yes, if he possessed a danger to teachers or other students (which he is not) I could get the extreme expulsion. but for someone who rarely (until this year) ever got in trouble, never gets into fights, has never disrespected an adult authority.

I don't know, maybe I am over reacting because it is happening to MY CHILD. But I keep finding it harder and harder to keep him interested in school. He does not mind not having to get up at 5:30 in the morning, going out in the cold or wet, sitting in a "boring" class, only then to come home to me bugging him about homework. But really, would you want to go back to school when they make it so easy to not be in. Because of his IEP they have to provide a home bound teacher 1 hour for every day of suspension. He managed to get most of his work completed with her in the 5 hours spent with her this afternoon. So now it seems he is down to a 5 hour a week (with maybe another 2 of homework) for school.

All I can do now is just shake my head. PLUS they loose money from him not attending. This is strange to me as this Superintendent is always crying poor, they need more money. Well he is throwing out the window as far as I am concerned as my son sits at home.

And before anyone gets their panties in a twist, yes I am making him do more reading, and enforcing rules not normally enforced while he was in school. Still has to go to bed the same time and I get him up with me in the morning. But this is still a vacation for him as much I may try to make it not. But one does have to work.
I guess that I will have to find a way to afford the military school near us (2 hours) so that someone will get his attention.
AARRRR it all I have let to say.

Sunday, March 08, 2009

Today is Sunday - The Day for Rest.

I finally received a full 8 hours of sleep. Ye Haw! No getting up in the middle of the night to phone calls from police, no hearing bumps in the night to find Devin gone and then getting in the car to search for him. Just sleep and no dreams I could remember. I actually woke up confused, not sure what time it was or day of the week it was. That is just an odd feeling.
The past couple of months have brought first wild dreams, the type of dreams that seem to stick with you after you wake up. Not nightmares, but really odd head scratching dreams. Then with finding out that Devin was starting to sneak out at night, me dreams became edgier, and I began sleeping lighter. Bumps in the house (that never woke me before) would make my eyes fly open and my ears perk up. Sometimes I do not bother getting up, others, well you know when you just get one of them feelings, I get up and wonder around the house. Sometimes it ended up being nothing, just the cat jumping off something.
This last Friday we had friends over (so we could keep eyes on Devin) to play domino's and cards. When they left we all headed for bed. I have been lately waiting for some time to fall asleep so I can make sure that Devin in asleep or very near it. This time I was so tired I just went to bed. With the weather being as beautiful as it was we had the windows open. 2o minutes after we went to bed something woke me, I still have no idea what woke me. I got up checking on Felicia (Mikayla was at a sleep over elsewhere) and was was out like a light with the puppies. I went to Devin's room, at first glance he was in his bed. But something did not feel right, still can not explain why I felt it.
I snuck into his room and approached his bed. Realizing the closer I got to his bed the less it looked like him in the bed. I placed my hand on the "lump" in his bed. Too soft, I pressed harder. BLANKETS! I ripped the covers down, he was not there. I bolted downstairs and out the basement door. I stood in the quiet back yard (in my sleep shirt no less) listening trying to hear something out of place. Nothing, I bolted back in going to the phone dialing one of his friends that he has a habit of sneaking out with..... no answer. I hand up and call again, I keep repeating this several times. Hoping to finally get an answer on the other end, without ever getting one.
I then went upstairs to look through his bed, finding a phone buried under blankets. I turn the phone on and hit redial. An answer FINALLY! His friend up the next street answered, of course stating that Devin was not there. At that point I woke up MD telling him Devin was gone. He was fussy at me that I did not wake him sooner. We got dressed and started driving around.
We started driving through the school parking lot (it is in our subdivision) no sign of Devin. Next we headed to the boy's house that I tried calling and never got an answer. We did a "stake out" further down the street, hoping that we would see Devin and/or the other boy coming or going. We sat for awhile without seeing anything.
We then decided to check out the house of the boy who did answer the phone. We came back to our subdivision deciding to drive by our house first (again just one of those feelings no particular reason why). I noticed that the 3rd car garage door was lifted about 4 inches from the ground. I told MD and he pulled in the drive. I said that I had locked the basement door and he had no other choice of entry into the house.
I ran in and went straight to his room, no Devin. I went to Felicia's room (she was sleeping in Mikayla's room) and at first could not see him in there. Again something told me to turn on the light, so I did. There he was on the floor up against her bed, pretending to be sleeping. I kicked his legs and told him to not play me. He lay unmoved so I kicked his feet again telling him I knew he was awake and that he was out and quite playing me for stupid. At this point he opened his eyes and got up to go to his room. I was torn, I do not know what else at this point to do with him. He has no regard for our rules much less anyone else's rules.
I was very proud of MD as his normal response is to scream and yell (I lately have joined in these responses) but he just kept even level tones. Not even sounding mad. We must have spoke with Devin for another hour.
MD and I also have learned to turn on the house alarm at night (du!) so that it will wake us if a window or door opens.
So today I did nothing (with the exception of laundry) but lay on the couch watching TV reading blogs and cat napping. Catching up on sleep I have been missing. I wonder if I will be able to sleep tonight.

Saturday, March 07, 2009

What is he thinking!

How do people survive teenage boys? But why do some boys behave totally amazing while others just can not seem to get anything right?

My son continues making the WRONG decisions. I have used every threat and punishment I can think of and yet nothing (and I mean nothing) seems to get through his thick skull. Tomorrow I am taking him to the local Juvenal detention center and asking that he gets a close look at what his immediate future is holding for him. With this I am desperately hoping that he chooses a better path than what he is on.

He has also received a minimum of 10 days suspension from school. Luckily they are allowing him to do his work at home and still be able to get his grades. (ha, maybe he will actually bring his F's up). I asked the school if there was anything else we could do in lieu of suspension as this was what he wants; to not have to go to school. They said that they understood but rules are rules. So I am enforcing community service while he is on suspension. I have contacted a local farm near here and asked if he could volunteer a couple days a week, I will also be contacting the Salvation Army soup kitchen to see if I could have him work there also. He is not happy about doing what I have suggested. He said that is already getting punished twice for what he had done (once from school and since police were involved once from them also). Told him to bad this will not be a vacation.

What is it that keeps BOYS from learning their lessons! My girls seem to learn their lessons much quicker. They get in less trouble, yadda yadda yadda.

Wednesday, March 04, 2009

A Night Out

MD and I (and Felicia in tow) went out to a friends wedding. MD and I used it as an excuse to get out since we rarely get our date nights anymore. I was playing photographer, Felicia relieved me so I could eat and take a breather at times. We had a lot of fun, until Devin and Mikayla kept calling. Arguing with me and each other over the phone. Ugh, here we go again. I settled them down and said that we would be home in a bit and then we enjoyed the rest of our time out.

Since Felicia was helping take pictures I ended up in front of the camera, which is very rare.

Felicia did take some wonderful pictures that I used in the Wedding Album.

Felicia caught MD and I on the dance floor. We rarely get to dance together anymore. When we try to dance or even hug at home the dogs go nuts and do not allow it. Little buggers!

Tom, Jeff, MD, and Jim.

Vicky, me, Michelle, Alicia

Toward the end of the evening Michelle and MD got into a camera war. To spare everyone the immaturity of MD and our friends I have not posted THOSE pictures.

I will say that Michelle was calling MD names every time she clicked the camera. He refused to cooperate with her. She must have taken 20 pictures of MD and myself trying to get a "good" picture of us.
When will she learn, MD cooperates with no one. But the bantering between them was very entertaining.
It is a VERY good thing we enjoyed ourselves Satuday night as Devin brought trouble to us once again Monday morning (4 am) with another visit from the police department. Thanks for that Dev.
One step closer to military school.