Monday, August 29, 2011

From Ace to Ass in 3 Days

In my previous post I mentioned Devin had a rather good IEP (individual education program) meeting with his case manager on Thursday.  I was there and was witness to it. 

Friday came no problems.

Today is Monday and he has hit his down side. 

5:45 am he refused to get up this morning to get ready to catch the bus.  he state "I have a ride". 

6:00 still refused to get up, stating he didn't need to be up yet.

6:15 starts the cursing

6:45 still cursing when I try to get him out of bed

At this point I disappeared to the garage with my coffee, book and cigarettes to "unwind" and "calm down".  To try to not sound so "crabby" when trying to get the boy up.

7:00 again told to leave his room and leave him alone.  (not in just those words)

I head to get my shower and get myself ready for work.

7:30  At this point first bell has already rung 10 minutes ago.  And I tell him to get up that school has started and he was now late.  I was informed he was not going.  I wanted to pull the Tasmanian devil on him at this point!   But alas I cannot as I am to be the "responsible" "grownup" party here (ugh).  I said that if this is what he was going to continually pull he needed to leave my house.  Oh, and give me the cell phone.  I was told no.  My reply was no problem I will call Sprint and cancel the service and if I do that it will not get turned back on.  His reply was fine, I will get my own. 

In my head I was thinking "HA I got you by the short hairs here little man!"  I simply replied that he could not get an account for ANY cell phone until he was 18 and that he was 9 months from that.  His reply was simply "get the F (no he didn't say the whole word) out of my room).  I walked away (if to do nothing but keep myself from ripping his head off), then came back asked for the phone again.  He handed it to me (after taking out the battery).

TRIUMPH!  He knows the phone is a goner.  And he didn't want me seeing his text messages and see his contacts.  He thinks he is being sneaky.  But at this point Mike realised Devin was still home and in fact not gone to school.  Round two started.

Mike likes to repeatedly ask the same question over and over.  That is until you give an answer he likes.  That was not going to happen this morning.  So he then proceeds to tell Devin if he chose to ditch school he needed to get out of the house, that he was NOT going to support a dead beat lazy kid.  I simply told Mike to walk away, don't let Devin get to him (1 that is my job and 2 he will end up with a coronary). 

Mike wants to take him to this rehab place not far from home.  I asked him why and to rehab what?  His attitude?  We have been told before and repeatedly that Devin is the way he is and there isn't much (not even medication) we can do to change it.  Mike said put him in for smoking pot.  I told Mike that is a waste of our money.  Devin needs an attitude adjustment and he will NOT get that at a drug rehab place.  I know why Mike wants to send him.  To give the rest of us a little peace and tranquility, and to say he has "tried" everything to deal with Devin.

We have tried everything, and honestly I like Devin better after he has smoke a little.  I know BAD MOM.  But really, don't judge until you yourself have attempted to raise a child that absolutely HATES you, can't be civil around anyone in the house (not sure how he acts around his friends families), is constantly angry no matter what you have or have not done, doesn't have a civil word to say.  And then he comes home one day in a great mood, helps around the house, speaks nicely to you and the entire family, willing to sit and do homework, what ever.  I can only WISH that stuff could come in pill form and was legal.

I know your thinking the kids has SOMETHING going on in his head.  You are right, but for the life of me I have tried to find out what that is.  We have been to ........ 6 psyhcologist, 1 psychiatrist, 2 neurologists, 1 behavior specialist, a handful of MDs, and 4 Therapist.  We have had just as many diagnosis.  several ADHDs, ODDs, Asperbergers, Depression, and several repeats of "he is a very strong willed by".  Seriously?!   And not one of them has given us anything to help with Devin.  We followed advise from one doctor and ended up with DFS at our door telling us we were psysicologically abusing Devin.  And we have been dealing with this since the 1st grade thank you very much. 

So here I am sitting at work trying to get it all out of my system and into this post, to where I would love for it to stay and make everything better at home.  It cannot. 

We have friends that want us to vacatio with them.  I would love to but again we feel we cannot.  Devin is near impossible to take anywhere and we absolutly refuse to leave him along for any length of time at the house.  Another friend jokes "well that is why you have insurance no?"  Um NO I don't want to have to come home to a party trashed house, or gracious knows what.  THAT would be irrisponsible on our parts we think, so no vacations.  I am hoping to sneak away with Mikayla later this year.  Maybe to Floriday, somewhere warm.  Maybe I will allow Mike to send Devin to rehab.  Maybe then we could take a vacation and not have to worry.  

I like control, and right now............................. we have no control.


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Leslie said...

double hugs. I'm SOO sorry and I do feel your pain.